"Yesterday a friend asked me about living in my heart, open and forgiving all the time. She said that she wants to understand how we can be loving if there is someone in our lives who robs or betrays us. She commented that there are people that aren't very nice to us sometimes....how can we forgive what they have done to us?

We cannot live a moment in our open and loving heart if we are angry, disappointed, hurt or feel disrespected. These uncomfortable feelings are in us each time we think of the person who may be dishonoring us or criticizes who we are. The negative emotions that rise up in us are usually attached to an experience or another person. These feelings have to be taken care of. If we feel self-doubt or resentment because of someone, we may be shut down or triggered and most likely will project our unhappiness.

We have to respect ourselves and set boundaries. We must also have a voice and stand up for ourselves. The anger and hurt is ours to look after and once we release it privately, we can speak with a clear and centered voice of truth. Stand up with a strong conviction and ask for what you need always. If you can take responsibility for your emotional pain and take care of your hurt heart...you may be free to forgive. This process takes time, but you can choose to live with pain or live without it. Peace waits on the other side of the bridge. That's why it is called The Peace Bridge."

Colleen Hoffman Smith