Thursday, April 15, 2010

Our Connection With Healthy Communication

It is so important to create space with coversations so that we can be present with our feelings as we hear the emotions rising up with the words spoken.

If you are connecting within and with a person you will get clarity into what is really going on....this is mindfulness.

I usually find that during conversations with my loved ones, this space that I give can open a pathway of feelings to be shared once the safe place has embraced the connection and conversation.

Often one of my daughters can get to a place to release any fears, hurts and disappointments once they become safe to open up.

Authenticity and intimacy flows because of this precious time of sharing.

When I am plunged into a drama, I become conscious of what I am feeling and my breath connects me to the present moment. Instead of reacting or moving into fixing mode, my breathing centers me and I can see clearly what is going on.

I remember a time when I did not know how to take care of my emotional body and my awareness was not strong enough. I would be ignited into a past experience with emotional pain and my connection would get clouded by guilt, neediness, fear, disappointment, control, anger, judgment or self-doubt. My heart disconnection would pull me into the drama placing my old pain over the situation.

As I continue to learn to live more present, I can see the drama or person as the gift to allow me the opportunity to respond differently.

It feels so good to stay connected to my open heart when my children, family, husband or friends need a safe heart to see the truth gently reflected.

When I am clear, the drama has a chance to dissolve and my reflection without negative charge opens a doorway for the flow of healing energy of peace and unconditional love.This is our responsibility as we consciously create safe communication and healthy relationships