"Yes you can BE with anyone if they stay! Any relationship that is in your life can serve you......we can leave if it is uncomfortable or we can continue to take responsibility for our own emotions that come to the surface. If we are in judgment or reaction we are being triggered by this person's pain and making them the problem. Finding our voice in relationship can move us into the safe harbour where healing our past brings us to more peace.

God makes no mistakes when he brings two people together! If the other person continues to shut down and blame you or shuts you out, can you move into your own compassionate heart to create your safeness where you can feel your own emotions such as.....guilt, fear, trust, self-doubt, resentment or anger?

This place that the other person may bring us to is the same wound that we have had to face since childhood such as....I am not good enough, I need your love and approval or I am not worthy of love.

If two people are willing to stay in relationship with healthy communication and understanding, together the relationship can grow and heal. We can leave if we feel our own discomfort or we can choose to stay if each one can find the place where living our highest potiential is possible. Sometimes we have to leave because the other person continues to blame and ultimately abuses, or doesn't take responsibility.... Finding your voice and protecting yourself from emotional or physical attacks is necessary. Take responsibility for your emotional attack on another or yourself ....this negative blame and judgment creates the barriers to loving and becomes the toxic relationship in you.

Sometimes we have to fully let another go because their own negativity and blame is still attached to you. Find your way with each relationship in your life...with your significant partner, your parents, your children, your siblings, your friends, your co-workers....and find your way to get from A to BE in peace and love. The breakthrough is in you."

Colleen Hoffman Smith