Look In The Mirror of The Moment

It is not our responsibility to change anyone, to fix them or to make them feel good about themselves. If we carry someone while they are feeling their lack or wrapped in the arms of a drama, they will depend on you for love and acceptance. This is enabling and they will eventually become emotionally disabled. Once you let go they will be left standing exactly where they were before. If you continue to fix or change someone you are not seeing them as perfect just the way they are.

The kindest and most loving thing to do is to be open and create a safe place for them to feel their pain…..and while they share it with you….
Continue to breathe and say to your-self, “I am here and I am safe”.
Connect with any fear, disappointment, resentment, anger or self-doubt by
Acknowledging any negative charge or judgment inside you.
Feel your own connection to your emotions rising up and while you breathe ... move
into compassion.

We cannot heal anyone, but we can inspire another while we become responsible for our own conscious presence. Awareness automatically connects with the higher purpose.

Once we attain our own peace the moment will become a sacred safe place for gratitude and unconditional love.

This reflection of our life reminds us all that any struggle or resistance is just as important to be with as the joy and beauty.

This moment is perfect just as it is.
Breathe deeply and be here consciously.

This person in front of you, in the moment, mirrors a part of you…..
Instead of reacting….BREATHE and take RESPONSIBILITY.
BE THE REFLECTION and RESPOND with your HEART in mind.

Dancing with Joy!

Bruce and I are taking Ballroom Dancing. We have wanted to do this for years. Like all life experiences, dance brings to us inner connection of awareness and a relationship discovery together.

When we are first learning the steps my past dance experience rises up inside me and I feel a familar comfort, yet while moving with Bruce there is some resistance initially. Because this is a new experience for Bruce, he is counting and thinking as his process of learning is moving through him differently.

Initially we are stiff and awkward together...our knees bump and I go one way and Bruce goes another. Our timing is off and frustration interrupts the flow.

Our teacher is accomplished and he is kind as he guides us without judgment.

In time our breathing becomes the center of our movement and the music moves us into the rhythm. There is a moment when it all comes together and the breakthrough has happened!...
WE ARE DANCING!

When the resistance is gone and we have let go, the music and dance steps becomes joy within us.

Dancing in relationship also takes practice and even when life brings us struggles we can move through them with the intention of finding that beautiful moment together.

Have a wonderful day as you connect with the rhythm of your own dance.
Peace and Love,
Colleen

TRUE LOVE SITS PATIENTLY AWAITING OUR ARRIVAL.

The voice of our ego is misleading.
True Love dissolves the false voice of the ego.
The voice of our higher self is of True Love.

True love tames fear and rescues us from the ego’s power.
Acknowledge, breathe, feel and let go of negative emotional barriers that close our heart to the presence of peace.

True Love is personal acceptance and presence in the moment .
True Love is forgiveness… Begin again and allow your authentic self to live freely.

True love inter-connects our mind, body and spirit, inter-grating our attention and intention.
True Love cannot live with illusion.

True Love does not ask for a thing…
doesn’t need….doesn’t control…doesn’t hurt…doesn’t deny us of joy or peace.

Each event or relationship of struggle gifts us the opportunity to be the keeper of the truth.

Once the awareness becomes conscious, the veil of darkness lifts and the light of compassion can heal a pathway to our open heart.

True Love sits patiently awaiting our arrival.

"Be at home wherever you are as you deepen past the negativity or fear. Here is the comfort of who you truly are. Here there are no lies. Here you don't need anyone's love and approval. Here you are safe. Here you are full of pure love and from this space and the connection in you, an energy, life force rises up, a passionate sensation, the one that is resonating in you is conscious awareness and sacredness as your inner voice expresses softly from your heart. Feel your radiance and the glow of your inner riches."

Colleen Hoffman Smith

Taken from Colleen's upcoming book

The Goddess Connection

"Listen to what fear wants to tell us.
Create a safe place for the fear to be realized and released.
Once the negativity of fear has a voice it will dissolve as
we breathe into our own connection of fear.

The process of letting go of fear re-connects our heart compassionately.
Compassion is the purest of love without conditions or judgment.

A deeper connection is made and we are free as we set someone
else free.

Respond with compassion and allow your own fire to burn and ignite your loving heart."

Colleen Hoffman Smith

"She used to take care of her home with joy; decorating and entertaining. Now she says, "I don't remember this place." My mother is living a waking nightmare and she is medicated to keep her out of her tortured mind. Alzheimer's is a terrible disease.

He withdraws into his inner world. He used to hear music and sing. My father has lost his hearing because of strokes. He is weakened physically by heart failure but he always says, "I'll be stronger tomorrow."

Each day I let go of a part of me that has been attached to my parents...I become more of myself.

Feeling deeply and authentically the darkness of sorrow without guilt, blame, self-pity or resentment can be our doorway to the light of transformation."

Colleen Hoffman Smith

"When a loved one is living in their tortured mind....
connect with your own feelings and show up for your self first.
Breathe into any fear or self-doubt that wants to torture you.
Let go of control.....look in the mirror of your life....stop blaming others.
Take responsibility for your emotional struggle....
Be with your own connection with your heart and breathe fully.
Allow the energy to support you.
Be patient as you hold your self first.
The solution will come on the wings of peace.
Be with your loved one here...the peaceful moment of connection.

My Mother has Alzheimer's and the darkness of the night takes
her to a dark, confused and fearful place.
Our family reminds her of the love she has always been.
We are here, inside our own heart with her."

Colleen Hoffman Smith